Author: Mutlu BİNİCİ
Translated into English by Furkan Yorulmaz
When a woman loses her spouse, she should be a mother and a father like Hz.Aminah. When a child is left orphan from a father and a mother, his grandfather should dance with him, grandfather should be friends with his grandchild without looking his age, like Abdulmuttalib did . When the grandfather dies, when he cries, his uncle should be Abu Talib, his aunt-in-law should be Fatimah bint Asad, before the tear drops his heart should find the peace.
Our prophet’s uncle Abu Talib was a reliable person that was loved by people of Mecca, and trusted, and arbitrated problems between the people. After Abdulmuttalib passed away, Abu Talib became the leader of Banū Hāshim even he was not rich as other tribe leaders, with his generosity and his social ethics, he became a leader that everyone respected and obeyed. The neighborhood that he settled was called “Shi’bu Abu Talib = Abu Talib Neighborhood”. Abu Talib who made wine haram to himself with his superior virtue and kindness of his ethics, he was worthy of “son of his dad” compliment.
Uncle Abu Talib cherished Muhammad(ﷺ) who is memory of his brother and his father’s trust, and Abu Talib loved him more than his own children. They slept together and, Abu Talib never left near him. Muhammad(ﷺ) was for Abu Talib what Yusuf was for Jacop.
You Are Very Blessed
Our dear prophet (ﷺ) had been a grace and brought baraqah to the house of his foster mother Halimah, as for Abu Talib he (ﷺ) became the light of Abu Talib’s eyes and, brought baraqah to his house. When they sat to eat without him, they never had been full. Abu Taleb realized when the table was prepared, he said: “Wait for my son! he should sit.”, and before he (ﷺ) came they didn’t start eating. Everyone would eat with prophet, everyone would become full, also food would remain. Abu Taleb would smile his nephew, and by saying “You are very blessed child” showed his admiration to him.
When the kids attacked the plates and our prophet (ﷺ) reached fort, Abu Talib interfered and, prepared plate and did not want him to be hungry. Our prophet (ﷺ) was too contented. He (ﷺ) never complained about. He (ﷺ) drank zamzam, and when they called him for meal he (ﷺ) said that he is full.
When scarcity appeared in Mecca, the people of Quraysh went to Abu Talib and wanted him to make rain prayer. Abu Talib used to take Muhammad (ﷺ) and go there and loll against Qabah and used to pray.
A Mother Like My Mother
Abu Talib’s wife Fatimah bint Asad loved our prophet(ﷺ), before her kids fed him, combed his hairs, perfumed him, and dressed him with best and cleanest clothes. Our prophet (ﷺ) did not forget her favors and often visited her, after emigration to Madinah, he (ﷺ) used to sleep in her house. When she passed away, our prophet(ﷺ) felt sorrow and cried by saying, “Today my mom passed away.” That implied his sorrow. Our prophet(ﷺ), who took off his shirt and made a shroud for his aunt-in-law in her funeral, recited 70 takbir by entering her grave first he laid down, and after he(ﷺ) stood up and supervised his aunt-in-law to be buried.
When companions of prophet Muhammed(ﷺ) asked about different treatment to Fatimah’s funeral, our prophet(ﷺ) answered as: “After Abu Talib, there was no one as her who contributed efforts for me. I made my shirt shroud to get her dressed in Jennah in Hereafter. I stretched out with her in the grave to get him warm to the grave.”
He(ﷺ) replied his friends who did not understand why he(ﷺ) was so sad about an old woman died, he(ﷺ) said, “She was like my mom,” and prayed to Allah by commemorating the services she served for him. May Allah not take away Ali’s mom, Fatimah b. Asad, from His prophet and make her our prophet’s neighbor. Amin.
Our dear prophet’s life is not just read and passed, and it is not a bunch of knowledge that improves our general knowledge, it is our most beautiful guide that should be taken a lesson and gained as an example in every step of life. His love for his uncle, and fidelity that he(ﷺ) did for his aunt-in-law explains more to today’s Muslims that is in ruptured relationships, not enough respect for parents, uncles and aunt-in-laws are pale in comparison.
Uncles and aunt-in-laws should set down the wings of grace to their nephews, Abu Talib’s and his wife’s love for our prophet should be an example to them. Muhammad aleyhissalam loves the people who have strong relationships and convivial Muslims.
A Noble Human
Abu Talib’s family was crowded and his assets were no more than few camels that spread out valleys around Mecca. He had the missions of “rifadah and siqayah” that means in the hajj time providing hajjis food and drinks. But Abu Taleb was very poor. Because of debts he couldn’t pay, he transferred the mission to his brother Abbas. Even he was in need, his struggle to help poor people, and the ones that knew the situation relied on his generosity and he was weighed by that. Even he had nothing but he was generous and it was a supermacy that belongs to noble people.
Is There A Prophet Who Did Not Shepherd?
Muhammad alayhissalam couldn’t watch his uncle’s situation. He(ﷺ) should have done something and as best as he can he(ﷺ) should have stood by his uncle. He(ﷺ) started shepherding when he(ﷺ) was ten in Mecca valleys, he(ﷺ) started to shepherd Quraysh’s sheeps
Narrated Abu Huraira:
The Prophet (ﷺ) said, "Allah did not send any prophet but shepherded sheep." His companions asked him, "Did you do the same?" The Prophet (ﷺ) replied, "Yes, I used to shepherd the sheep of the people of Mecca for some Qirats."
Prophet of Allah(ﷺ) campaigned for conquest of Mecca, when they arrived the place named Marruzzahran companions began to pick fruits of peelu. Our prophet(ﷺ) said, “I prefer darkened ones because they are sweetest.” The companions knew this knowledge is possessed by shepherds who asked in astonishment, “O prophet of Allah, did you shepherd?” Our prophet(ﷺ) said, “Is there a prophet who did not shepherd? Every prophet was certainly a shepherd.”
Our prophet’s shepherdess in his child ages surely have a lot of reasons. He(ﷺ) protected the sheep that was resigned to him, he(ﷺ) knew how to protect them from predators and thieves. He(ﷺ) managed them to spread in pastures , and managed them to spread in valleys, he was patient in his behaviors when he(ﷺ) tidied up them, he(ﷺ) exhibited love them and had pity on them, also he(ﷺ) enjoyed being alone in caves, valleys with thinking and contemplation.
Prophet of Allah learnt protecting deposit, managing and dispatching, and being patient and merciful for under him in sheepherding years. He(ﷺ) was a little boy when he(ﷺ) started working, helped his family, and never thought about sitting and making himself comfortable, and never thought about free riding. And we should begin to work in young ages as he(ﷺ) did, and we should possess the consciousness of responsibility. We shouldn’t disgrace working, and whatever the circumstances we should strive to do something. Of course, the Ummah of a prophet who began to work at the age of ten or nine worked through his life and completed all his work successfully don’t have the luxury of laziness and laying down.